First of all, I want to validate how difficult this kind of scenario can be. A teacher of mine once said, “it feels hard because it is hard”. So true. I’m sending some compassion your way………
I appreciate how, even while you express your hurt, you can take perspective and allow yourself to notice that this action (or…Read More
Wow. This type of change can be really rough. Change + pregnancy + possible new modality = a lot of moving parts, which can exacerbate the OCD and intrusive thoughts and worries. I feel for you.
When I look at the last sentence you wrote, “What should I do with not wanting to go to someone new…”, I get a visual image of a part of you t…Read More
One of the things I do in session when this happens is ask clients to do a brain dump. Clients can lay out issues without having to go into them or explain what they are. Sometimes it helps to picture each issue as a photograph and give it a label so we can go back to it later. I also have an easel with paper in my office so I can…Read More
Not being able to sleep at night is upsetting and difficult, and can really affect your quality of life. It can also start a vicious cycle, where you don’t sleep enough, and then become really tired, and then take lots of coffee to stay up, which means your next sleep maybe affected as well. Not fun at all.
There have been some great b…Read More
Zipa Leah Scheinberg, LCSW replied to the topic Feeling of loneliness and sadness after leaving therapy session… in the forum Something else? Post here!
Thank you for putting into words the feelings that many people have after they leave session. For some reason, perhaps more in Western society, we expect to put our feelings in segregated little boxes, and neatly wrap them up to fit ‘society norms’. The heart doesn’t work that way 🙂
For many people who come from a background of tr…Read More
I appreciate your question, as this is a really normal human experience in trauma therapy. Many people think that healing is a linear process. However, I like the metaphor of a spiral staircase. We don’t usually start at the beginning and push through until the end. The journey can be seen as more of a cyclical one, that…Read More
Great question! I think that with the awareness of so many different modalities out there (EMDR, IFS, etc.), sometimes the emphasis on good psychodynamic therapy is lost. Hopefully, this will be helpful.
With psychodynamic therapy, the goal is to facilitate a deeper understanding of your own internal landscape, i.e. exploring who…Read More
Hi, just keep swimming,
Thank you for posting this question, because I suspect almost everyone who is reading your question has had the same question, somewhere along the line, in their life! Kudos to you for putting it out there.
From a therapist’s perspective, I would answer your question by giving you some information about what could be g…Read More
I was so sorry to read your post and hear what you and your family are going through. May HKBH grant you strength to endure whatever lies ahead.
Here are a few of my thoughts on anticipatory loss and impending grief.
In these types of situations, there are lots of overwhelming emotions such as sadness, anger, numbness, disbelief,…Read More
Sure! I have so many books in my office and in my home, but this one I find myself recommending the most to clients and friends because a. The author is not a therapist, and if you’ve been in therapy for a while, you can really find yourself relating to his struggles as he comes into therapy and documents in the book his initial disbelief a…Read More
Hi CleverAngel (love your name, btw:)
aaaagh….this is so difficult. And so common. Because if you like people, are on your own healing journey, and known to be a caring person, there’s a good chance that you’ll be the person that people turn to when they’re feeling really down or need someone to hold space for them while they are going through…Read More
What a great post, because not only are you really clear about what you’re struggling with and what you want for your future, you know that the way out of this is both to use deep healing methods and some practical, user-friendly, daily exercises to change the programming of your brain. As you’ll see below, expr…Read More
“The world will not make it easy for you to heal. You will find listeners only through trial and error. You will create safe space by distancing yourself from some of the people you love. You will build confidence by disappointing people. You will move forward by leaving behind beliefs that no longer serve you despite your attachment to them. Y…Read More
Thanks for posting about this important topic, and I’m glad you reached out, because feeling lonely on this journey is one of the most normal and common experiences that people have!
You’ve gotten a lot of good advice already. I would divide my answer into two parts – an “inner child” answer and an adult answer.
As humans, we long…Read More
Thanks, Climber! I can certainly try….
Somatic therapy is a type of therapy that can aid you in becoming more aware of your nervous system and helps you learn to feel attuned and safe inside your body. It aims to help you regain control over your emotions by helping you be in touch with, understand and release triggers, fears, and negative b…Read More
Here’s another poem that helps me remember the power of change on life’s journey.
AUTOBIOGRAPHY IN FIVE CHAPTERS
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in.
I am lost … I am hopeless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pre…Read More
Hi OkClarity Community,
This is one of my favorite poems, and I wanted to share it with you. Sometimes it seems like poetry just hits the spot – brief and non-linear sentences that cheer you on and ‘just get it’! It also leaves room for your own thoughts and speaks to a universal language that we all share.
one day…Read More
You certainly are NOT the only one. Depersonalization and derealization are more common that people think, and are mostly underreported because people tend to hesitate before bringing it up with their friends or therapist. After all, the purpose of DP/DR is to help one hide in plain sight, so it certainly wouldn’t be noticeable (in o…Read More
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