Good luck!

Hi There- I’m so sorry you’re going through this- profuse sweating is very uncomfortable. I would see what the doctor says, but it might also help to see a dermatologist who might be able to prescribe medical Botox in your armpits. Here’s a link that explains the use of Botox for a condition called hyperhydrosis, or excessive sweating. I hope…Read More

Chavy- thank you for your response and for providing more details. Yes, OCD can pathologies seemingly random things- like going out. I’m glad you’re working with your therapist and psychiatrist on grounding techniques, and that you’re trying to push yourself to do the actions that you’d rather avoid – that’s a great way to break the negative…Read More

Hi Chavy- I’m so sorry you’re going through this and feeling so terrified. Here are my thoughts: I’d  want to ask you questions about your history, approximately how long this condition has been going on. You say you can’t remember when it started, and I would want to explore this, using an evidence-based treatment like EMDR, which can help you…Read More

I’m sorry the feeling of overwhelm is so intense for you. That may be your body’s way of saying you’re not ready to work on the trauma at your current rate, and it’s important to listen to what your body needs. Perhaps you can slow down the resurgence of pain by only working on a “slice” of trauma at a time. In other words, there are ways to hel…Read More

Hello- what a haunting and brave poem! I want to commend you for your courage in baring your soul in this way. Clearly poetry is a powerful channel of communication for you, as you have used it here, and in other postings, to express emotions that otherwise are kept hidden. I am so sorry you were a parentified child and continue to deal with the…Read More

To your point, Yehuda, emotions can be expressed in productive and healthy ways through channeling them into creative endeavors, such as journaling, writing a blog or letters you don’t actually send. You can channel your emotions into writing fiction, or poetry, or creating art and music. In the creative realm, you can acknowledge your f…Read More

Your welcome, Chavy!

Hi Chavy,
I want to commend you for your honesty in sharing this – I can imagine that this was not easy for you. In terms of your relationship ending and your intense need for a motherly figure, your awareness that you have this pattern and this need is excellent; it’s an important first step. You correctly identify this intense need as ste…Read More

Hi There!

First, I wanted to add my my support to the other voices of encouragement and help on this site, and commend you for your bravery in disclosing about chatting. Talking about this issue here, and certainly to your therapist, is no easy thing to do, so well done for taking those important steps!

Second, I wanted to respond to your…Read More

Hi Chavy-I can see that depending on one’s situation this kind of radical acceptance would be easier or harder, especially if your family’s disagreement would make it harder to internalize. As you said though, that’s an issue of family dynamics-something about the way your family interacts with you and the world makes self-acceptance harder. So yo…Read More

Your welcome!

Well, we can try-or recommit to trying every day, if necessary. Make it a practise, along with self-care and establishing better boundaries!

Hi Avocado- I’m relatively new to this site, so I only just saw your post “My Contemplation on this Past Year.” Wow- you are a terrific writer, and must use this talent to help you transcend your sadness at the facade.
Your plea that others see “Whatever you are, you are okay” reminds me of one of my favorite songs by Alanis Morrisette “That I W…Read More

tks Chavy!

<p class=”p1″><span class=”s1″>Hi Chaya- Inching in a direction that’s brimming with potential and new possibilities, as symbolized by your vision of the clean pond, big grassy area, and clear sky is a wonderful idea! That kind of clarity and drive is really important in terms of healing. Of course clients will be at different stages in their a…Read More

Glad it was helpful, Hudi!

That’s a very acute observation- thank you for bringing it up! Even healthy distress tolerance techniques, if taken to an extreme, can become unhealthy. Everything needs to be in balance, whether it’s work, exercise, or socializing. DBT therapy has a lot of great insights about maintaining the dialectic, or balance, between extremes.

That’s good to hear!