Ending treatment with a therapist whom you’ve become attached to is hard. There is no way to avoid feelings of sadness and loss when treatment ends before you are ready. So much of the treatment is about the relationship between you and your therapist so no wonder it hurts so much to think about it coming to an end. You said you’ll be talking…Read More
I’m not sure if this was your intention, but to engage in unsupervised use of psychedelics as a natural way of healing is a misuse and abuse of psychedelics. Trauma sufferers seek relief from their pain and symptoms, and mental health practioners are acutely aware of the need to help this population get their lives back. Research and trials…Read More
I don’t know why you were in treatment or anything else about you, but will try to provide some general thoughts for you to consider and hope they help.
The feelings you described as uncomfortable seem to indicate to me that you were attached to your therapist. Feeling attached to your therapist is a good sign. But, you didn’t like the fe…Read More
I’ll let you in on a secret, once you start dating you will quickly discover that no one is perfect. Relationships are complex. They can bring joy, misery, or both, and everything in between. By nature, all of us crave connection and ideally, the relationship between a husband and a wife should be one where both spouses feel safe and secure. While…Read More
You were very clear. I feel for you – your words describe a real dilemma and struggle. Your thoughts about your religious observance are in conflict with your feelings. You recognize the link between the mitzvos hayom, your childhood trauma, and its resulting anxiety.
Childhood trauma requires treatment from a qualified therapist and…Read More
This is so hard. Understandably, you really want to get married. Here’s a suggestion – notice what’s happening. You’re forecasting future events. You’re feeling anxious and by definition, anxiety lives in the future, but we live in the present. Can I make a suggestion? I don’t know what your relationship with your brothers is l…Read More
You’re a growth-oriented person. You look for opportunities to develop skills in all areas of your life – spiritual, emotional, and physical. You’re conscious of making the right choices and showing for […]
I read your words, and this is how I understand your question. You ask whether it’s normal to deprive yourself of therapy despite feeling it could help. Would you deprive yourself of seeing a doctor if you have an infection, or a dentist if you have a cavity? You say that two hundred years ago therapy would have been considered absurd.
So would…Read More
Reparenting yourself means filling in the emotional gaps that occurred in your early life by giving yourself what you didn’t receive as a child.
Looking back at your childhood, you recall times when you didn’t get the type of nurturing you needed. Some children suffer significant deprivation, others less so, while others have had goo…Read More
Being emotionally neglected impacts your ability to register feelings. When someone asks “how do you feel about that?” which is likely to happen on a date, you probably don’t know how you feel and don’t know how to answer the question.
Dating for the purpose of building a relationship with someone, someone you can marry, ne…Read More
Not getting a response from your therapist is uncomfortable. Many therapist will send a one sentence reply so that you know it was received. Doing more than that is not helpful.
It also sounds like your therapist is not the only silent one. He doesn’t respond to your emails and you don’t respond to his silence. Do you bring up his…Read More
Learning how to break free from perfectionism & shame can be daunting, but with practice, it’s possible to transform these painful feelings into self-growth and self-actualization.
The teacher meant well but […]
Trying is Lying
When I hear someone say they are going to try,
I hear them saying something else.
I hear them saying that they won’t.
I’ll try says, I want it to sound like I will.
I’ll try says, I’m uncomfortable saying no.
When you don’t want something, you try.
When you want something, you do something.
What do you tell…Read More
Often, it’s harder to be vulnerable with our own parents than it is with strangers.
I don’t know your age so I have to assume that you live at home and are dependent on your parents.
Your question is how to ask. I’m taking it for granted that you believe your parents will arrange for you to meet with a therapist once they learn that you’re…Read More
This is a huge challenge during the state’s lock-down and social distance regulations. Despite the oft repeated mantra, “We’re all in this together” it doesn’t feel that way, we feel very alone. This is even truer if you’re living with others whose coping mechanisms are in conflict with your own.
You probably saw that video clip of an…Read More
<span style=”font-weight: 400;”>I want to talk to all you working moms who are terrified because your children are home or will soon be home due to school closures. You’ve never been a stay-at-home mom, nor have you ever wanted to be one. </span>
<span style=”font-weight: 400;”>It’s hard to stay focused on how COVID-19 has altered the &l…Read More
Do you feel anxious and experience dark moments? You know the ones I’m talking about – those moments when you feel hopelessly alone and believe that there is something inherently wrong with you. Do you have a sen […]
Michelle Halle replied to the topic Intense friendship ended and wanting a motherly figure in the forum Something else? Post here!
This sounds so painful.
I’d like to share my perspective but before I do, I want to say that Rivkah Kaufman gave you some great tools for regulating your emotions. They are considered the gold standard of care. Btw, did you know that Marsha Linehan suffered from emotional dysrgulation herself and created this to treat herself?
Here is…Read More
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