if-the-stars-align replied to the topic Justice vs Keep everyone together in the forum Trauma
Wow – you’re faced with such a tremendous decision.
Would you have to testify? If yes, definitely take into consideration all the emotions that will likely come up.
I’m assuming you’ve discussed this with your therapist, right?
if-the-stars-align replied to the topic Therapy thoughts in the forum Something else? Post here!
I relate – I’ve been in therapy for years and I really like my therapist – I still am a nervous wreck every single week before my session. It’s kind of something I just got used to. (maybe some anxiety meds would help me.. it’s something I’m looking into)
if-the-stars-align replied to the topic Completely lost in the forum Something else? Post here!
I have to say, this really resonates with me. At one point I was pushing for a diagnosis – I thought it would help me fit everything neatly into a box and I’d be able to tie a pretty bow on top and call myself fixed, healed.
My therapist kept telling me that diagnoses are perfect for billing insurance but not as much for healing… Humans are…Read More
if-the-stars-align replied to the topic DPDR in the forum Anxiety
You’re most definitely not the only one. I experienced it for many years.
You know, sometimes our bodies do things that are considered “disordered” just to survive a very terrible situation. Once we are safe, however, the behavior can get in the way of living life the way we want to.
I’m just pointing this out because I want you to know you’re…Read More
if-the-stars-align replied to the topic Taking the lead in therapy in the forum Trauma
I can relate to this very much as well.
I usually email my therapist – sometimes I email her and ask her to please bring xyz up during the session and I’ll tell her about it then, and sometimes I include the entire “issue” in the email.
I used to get very frustrated at myself for being unable to just talk openly in therapy, but my therapist is…Read More
if-the-stars-align replied to the topic Short Poem on Moving Forward… in the forum Trauma
I think I can relate – tell me if this is what you mean.
While the trauma was actively happening, I think I was in survival mode. In my case, I was the “happy, popular, life of the party” kid – even though I was actively going through abuse – for years. Nobody would’ve ever guessed.
My body was in survival mode and I did what I had to do to…Read More
if-the-stars-align replied to the topic Religion and Therapy in the forum Just Shmooze
I never really thought about re-adjusting our relationship to kind of make it work for who I am now – since I definitely changed since I was a teenager. For the better or worse, it is what it is. I think there is a part of me that feels like I don’t deserve a relationship, perhaps because of the changes in my life. But what you said really…Read More
if-the-stars-align replied to the topic Religion and Therapy in the forum Just Shmooze
<span style=”font-weight: 400;”>Thank you, @Leebi for taking the time to write out such a detailed and thought-out response! </span>
<span style=”font-weight: 400;”>I’ve heard about Chazkeinu and I am familiar with the founder, I have never joined their program although I did recently look into it. Perhaps it’s a good idea for me to revi…Read More
if-the-stars-align started the topic Short Poem on Moving Forward… in the forum Trauma
I know that the past couple of weeks have been tremendously triggering for me personally and I am sure other people with a history of trauma can relate. I wrote this poem a while ago and I decided to share it here in case it gives anyone chizzuk.
Come little girl, hold onto my hand
Don’t cower any longer – you’ll see, you can…Read More
if-the-stars-align replied to the topic Healing from the past in the forum Trauma
Hey!
I think it’s part of being human to feel like we want to share our story – who we are, essentially, with someone and to hear that we are normal in our feelings and reactions.
Are you currently seeing someone or the 2 therapists were in the past? If you’re not seeing someone, I would totally encourage you to either return to your old…Read More
if-the-stars-align replied to the topic Religion and Therapy in the forum Just Shmooze
thanks so much for responding. I actually have tears running down my cheeks from your response.
The truth is, that I really do believe that I am lazy. As a teenager I spoke to Hashem all day long. I literally had a running conversation Him. Davening from a siddur was always challenging for me but I had a relationship. Even (especially, actually)…Read More
if-the-stars-align replied to the topic Religion and Therapy in the forum Just Shmooze
I didn’t realize it was an official thing – that therapists shy away from discussing religion. We’ve touched on it – lightly, but my therapist basically told me that I have to work my relationship with God out, but didn’t seem so on board with being the one to do it with me.
I find it confusing. Also makes me feel a little hopeless – like is it so…Read More