SO much here! There have been some articles written by therapists in our community on this!
There are some therapists, especially trauma-focused who will shy away from religion as they far it can be quite triggering for clients & there are others (like myself) who as clients at the onset of therapy how & if they want Gd/religion/higher…Read More
Hey cn, so sorry for everything you’ve been through.
Amazing for you though that you’re seeking help for this.
Even after all the help and skills we get, if we still feel lonely the work can feel very ‘blah’
While there’s no one way to go about this, I’m wondering if you’e been able to unpack some early attachments and relationship forming…Read More
Hey Vegiie Lover,
Watching someone lose control can be very traumatizing, for a number of reasons!
It may be helpful ot process this somehow so it doesn’t get worse.
If you find yourself getting worried there’s a helpful, basic grounding technique called 5-4-3-2-1 that can be super usuefel
Also, learning the DBT mindfulness skills;…Read More
Labels are just Labels, as sometimes wrote, we can determine how much weight they place on us and also use them to glean certain insight into our behaviors.
Labels should never be used by a therapist as a judgment of character or an ‘all-in-one’ explanation of a person.
Every one is unique and has a whole set of circumstances that…Read More
Hey ec, this is one of those topics that has no absolute rule, but some general guidelines are helpful.
Most therapists (I assume) would be taken aback by something extravagant, which can vary from client to client based on their individual circumstances.
Many, not all, are usually ok with small tokens of appreciation – especially if it is a…Read More
Hi Nochum, so sorry for what you’re going through!
Sounds like Shaya really hit the nail on the head here.
OCD is a funny kind of thing and can show up in certain areas and not others (or even part of a certain area, like w/ many kinds of religious OCD).
If you’re open to a book suggestions, Dr. Grayson’s book “Freedom from OCD” has a lot of…Read More
Yehuda (Hudi) Kowalsky replied to the topic When to wean off a medication and how to get over stigmas in the forum Something else? Post here!
Hi Anonymous, kudos to you for taking care of yourself & prioritizing your health and wellbeing over “stigma”
I’ve seen that the more comfy someone is with whatvr it is they’re avoiding sharing the more at ease the one they’re telling it to will be when the info is shared.
This is not a small matter and care needs to be used when sharing, and at…Read More
Hi Sometimes, ouch is right!
To echo what Shaya said, your insight seems to be profound and deep.
Hopefully, as you continue to process and do the work that insight will lead to genuine self acceptance and love which can then guide you thru these tumultuous relationship patterns.
We need relationships in our life and we have an inherit need to…Read More
Hi Hope, such a great Q.
Going to therapy can bring up a lot of things; emotions, memories etc can that can have residual effects. It’s not always simple to ‘close’ a session and go back to routine (as an aside this is another limitation of zoom sessions where you don’t have to ‘travel’ to session).
I’m wondering if you can address this w. your…Read More
Great Q. Shmuel, I think this varies significantly between therapists.
As was mentioned, many DBT therapists allow for and even encourage the use of coaching goals.
More traditionally trained therapists are very uncomfortable with the idea.
There are also scheduling and other logistical things that pop up that may require contact prior to…Read More
Chavy, I hope you’re already doing better since you posted.
I think you hit the nail on the head in the title of your post, as you cleverly spelled out – the more we try to ‘control’ our anxiety, the more it ends up showing who’s in charge!
I’m wondering if, paradoxically, fully entering into some of your fears may actually calm you down; kind…Read More
Yehuda (Hudi) Kowalsky replied to the topic Ideas of what to do when being on vacation but also helping out sister in the forum Self Care
Def. a touchy subject!
On the one hand it sounds like you want to be there for your sister & her fam and you also need personal space.
I like the idea of taking “recess” and “lunch breaks” when possible; kinda like a work or school schedule maybe you can build in some down time; going for walk, listening to music etc. ahead of time so there are…Read More
It certainly sounds like your body is holding onto some of the trauma, besides the physical affects of the fire. You mentioned some mental heath struggles in your family as well, that is an emotional fire that is still raging and has yet to be put out.
I highly recommend the book “The Body Keeps the Score” by van Der Kolk; he…Read More
Moshe, that sounds super intense!
Is that an image you need to keep up – I’m sure than can get exhausting!
Curious how you respond to others when they appear the opposite of the way you describe yourself, can you relate – what about to those parts of yourself?
I’m also wondering if it’s always one or the other, is there ever a middle…Read More
Hi @mentalhealth08 while there is no singular way that depression is manifest, there is a ‘textbook’ definition (which I’ll post below) as well as the way many of us conceptualize it.
In a nutshell, sadness is a feeling which can arise out of the blue or can be triggered by events in the environment. This emotion becomes a ‘lens’ that can then…Read More
Yehuda (Hudi) Kowalsky replied to the topic How to deal with a spouse who is an overeater and is depressed? in the forum Depression
What a difficult situation to be in!!
There is some great feedback here, I’d like to echo what someone had written previously. Namely it sounds like you’ve tried many avenues without luck.
It’s very painful to watch anyone, especially a loved one engage in self-destructive behaviors; short of trying to remove all the potential hazards from…Read More
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