I’m so sorry that you had to suffer through that!
Has the abuser done anything to rectify his behavior? Has he made a real amends, shown honest remorse, gone for help etc? If he has, then perhaps it wouldn’t serve a real purpose to send him to jail? I can’t tell you from a perspective of how it would help you on a personal level because bh I…Read More
Although my children are younger, they have similar personality traits to what you’re describing. Even to the point where they sometimes act that way towards me as well. I try to instill in them that: 1. The parents have the authority in the house, not her. 2. She is not in control of how they respond, even if she’s right. 3. Only you are…Read More
Our lives are fluid and our circumstances constantly changing. So just because something was easy at one point in our lives, doesn’t mean it will be easy in another situation. I definitely found certain aspects of Judaism easier as a kid/teen, probably because we spent the whole day in school focusing on it. Years later I find that some things I…Read More
Great points, thank you! It certainly won’t be helpful to talk about it with a therapist who doesn’t want to discuss it with you. Although I think a therapist should follow the lead of the client in the direction they want to use to recovery.
I totally agree! It always bothers me that it’s specifically avoided because someone might get offended. In general there’s no one size fits all, and if something doesn’t speak to you, just keep scrolling. Why can’t we do that with religion as well?
Thanks for responding! She’s 9 and very similar personality to my husband. He tends to see what he doesn’t like about himself in her (he told me that).
Of course there are times when she should be asking permission for certain things, but I think it’s ok if many times she doesn’t. In this case she tried to explain that she wasn’t able to ask and…Read More
How can I empower my child to use her strengths when my husband gets upset at her for it? For example, she’s a problem solver and a doer. If she sees something needs to be done she takes care of it. My husband (because of his own personal issues) gets upset at her for not asking permission. And if she makes a mistake he gets even more upset. I…Read More