Hey there, I’d love to address your question but it’s very vague… can you be more specific?

Hey there, thank you so much for reaching out for help and sharing this. It takes a lot of courage to reach out when you are in so much despair and I admire that.

You have a good head on your shoulders as is apparent from your recognition that your prior support team was unsupportive for you, that you are in a state of confusion as to what is…Read More

Thank you for reaching out! That sounds like a really difficult experience  and it’s no wonder you are feeling afraid, confused, and ambivalent about going down that path again.

I am by no means an expert in the medication realm but what I can share is this. Just like the therapeutic relationship is a key predictor in treatment success, the…Read More

Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you really did a wonderful job at due diligence in an effort to stay strong throughout this anniversary that is coming up.

I hope you are proud of yourself for not only having the awareness that there is a trauma anniversary but that you need a plan for how to cope and even add an additional layer to…Read More

Awesome. Glad you found it helpful.

Thank you for sharing this. We will address this in our 7 minute Live Q & A today!

Thank you for reaching out! I am so glad you found OKclarity!

It sounds like you’ve been through a lot and while it may feel like you are starting from ground zero, the insight and awareness that your post reflects is proof that you are already many steps into your healing journey.

So, please…

Don’t – freak out.

Do- access professional help…Read More

Thank you for your feedback. So glad you found it helpful.

OK sure. I reached out to my network and found this information.

Shoshana Mounessa

(718) 644-2756

shoshjo@yahoo.com

Confidential shadchan dealing with Emotional, Medical, Physical and/or Social concerns. Ages 20-late 40’s.

Wishing you the best of luck!

OK so to clarify, you are simply looking for leads of general matchmakers? Or are you specifically looking for ones who deal with mental health etc?

Hey there, I’d love to help, I am just not so clear on what your question is. Are you looking for leads of shadchanim who specialize with individuals with mental health challenges? Are you looking for advice on how to navigate communicating with a shadchan if you don’t want to share your mental health background from the outset? Or, are you asking…Read More

My pleasure. Rooting for you!

Absolutely.

I am so glad you agree sleep is vital and the first step.

My suggestions:

1. No technology access 1.5-2 hours before bed
2. Take 5-10 minutes to journal/brain dump on paper  before bedtime. You can keep this journal/ notebook near your bed so you can jot something down if needed after you did a brain dump.
3. Drink a sleepy time tea…

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Thanks for reaching out PhilosophicalTzadik and sharing your struggle.

It sounds like your life feels chaotic due to competing responsibilities and a lack of time for self care. I want to point out that the lack of time for self care is contributing to life feeling so chaotic. It’s a perpetual cycle. Getting more done, means less self care, which…Read More

Also, just another thought.

I completely agree with splitandtrying2bme that there are resources and measures that you can take to build a network of people you can relate to and who can relate to you.  I hope you can pursue that slowly and patiently.

To address the loneliness piece: I want to point out that the feeling of loneliness is a…Read More

Thank you both for connecting so kindly and brilliantly. Reading this makes my heart swell with joy. I am rooting for you both!

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Fay

Chavy, your responses are so on point, thank you!

Something to add, perhaps you can take a few minutes (or more) to journal as close to Shabbos as possible. This way you are creating more emotional space in the event new emotions come up over Shabbos they may not feel as explosive and it’ll be easier to wait until after shabbos to journal about…Read More

I don’t know the exact nature of your struggles so it’s challenging to prescribe a book. Some general great ones are

the gift of therapy

maybe you should talk to someone

the body keeps the score

i hope that helps!

Hey Okidoki,

I am here to tell you that you are normal.

It is very normal to have ranges of emotions. It is also common that the ranges of emotion are intense and extreme when they surface due to traumatic experiences that have not been dealt with. Feelings buried alive never die. I completely understand and respect your fears associated with…Read More

Hey Chavy,

I can hear the distress in your post and I am sorry you’re going through this emotional pain. I wonder if it would be helpful to recognize how this fear and uncertainty is so similar to all forms of fear & uncertainty.

Anything can happen that would make seeing your therapist in person not possible at this time. Perhaps, she finds out…Read More