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    I am in therapy or thinking of starting, how can I ensure that I have a successful therapy experience?
    You may think the challenging part of therapy is finding a good fit therapist and that once that’s over, […]

    Want a successful therapy experience? Here's 5 Tips You Ought to Know

    I am in therapy or thinking of starting, how can I ensure that I have a successful therapy experience? You may think the challenging part of therapy is finding a good fit therapist and that once that's over, you're on...

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    • Hi, I love the article, so helpful and informative.

      Thank you so much!

    • This is a very informative article. The only thing I would add is that there should be some level of liking to one’s therapist, otherwise, how can you connect to them. It’s hard to engage in therapy if you don’t like your therapist. I believe that that’s what a therapeutic relationship is.

      • Thanks for your response. I agree that some level of “like” is important in order to connect. Hence, I said we don’t need to “love” or “really like”. Also, sometimes, individuals who are in therapy really dislike themselves in a such a visceral way which doesn’t allow them to like someone else. In these cases and for this reason, I believe it’s an important disclaimer or tip for those who can benefit from hearing it.

    • Got it! Thanks for explaining!

  • This is a q&a from a Rav in Sydney.

    From Rabbi Moss, Sydney, Australia.

    Question of the Week:

    This coronavirus thing has really thrown me. I feel like I’ve lost all sense of certainty. No one knows what will happen next. How do we stay sane when we don’t know what’s lurking around the corner? 

     Answer:

    It is not that we have lost our sense o…Read More

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    Where to Turn?
    An estimated one-in-five Americans grapple with a mental health disorder each year, and the percentages are not lower in the Orthodox Jewish circles. Mental health disorders grab the headlines but […]

    Jewish Mental Health Resources

    Where to Turn? An estimated one-in-five Americans grapple with a mental health disorder each year, and the percentages are not lower in the Orthodox Jewish circles. Mental health disorders grab the headlines but are often treated as a taboo topic in...

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    • Thank you so much! So important for people to have the resources to help themselves!

    • even though i work, am able to function as an employee, mom, wife(somewhat) etc. i still have the panic and anxiety sitting in my head. i was advised by my psychiatrist to enter a short term inpatient rehab , because i had what she calls a partial suicide attempt, oh, and did i mention that i have a child in pain. i do not even remember whom i am emailing any more. could you please help me find an inhouse program please? thanks

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    Fay Brezel started the topic Pittsburg shooting in the forum Trauma

    Like the rest of us, my heart goes out to the victims, their families, and our communities. I also know that learning about the devastating tragedy speaks to all of us in different ways. I wanted to open up this thread to talk about how we all deal with learning about this attack and trauma. Does it help you find greater meaning? Does it cause…Read More

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    There I was tearfully watching confetti explode all around me on graduation day, angry—not glad, as Dr. Seuss had advised—that college was over, and terrified, as we lined up and filtered back into the outside wor […]

    Embracing Your Quarter-Life Crisis

    There I was tearfully watching confetti explode all around me on graduation day, angry—not glad, as Dr. Seuss had advised—that college was over, and terrified, as we lined up and filtered back into the outside world. We had reached...

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    • This article was everything I needed right now! Thank you for showing me that it’s alright to be where I am in life right now.

    • Thank you! so true we need to do alot of self talk and to stop comparing ourselves to others. I like the quote that I once read “Since hashem made us to be originals why stoop to be a copy?”

    • Well said @avacad0, that’s so true. We lose ourselves when we try to be like other people. Our twenties just happen to be a time when we wish we were ANYBODY else, haha.

    • Yesss this is what im working on.

    • I like to watch this every now and then to help me keep proper perspective. I hope you will enjoy!

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    Do you equate loving your children with being nice and agreeable?  Does being nice keep the peace, but leave you feeling frustrated and ineffective?  If so, you’re not alone. It may be time to rethink this bel […]

    Love Is Not About Being Nice

    Do you equate loving your children with being nice and agreeable?  Does being nice keep the peace, but leave you feeling frustrated and ineffective?  If so, you’re not alone. It may be time to rethink this belief, this definition...

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    • Love means saying ‘heavens yes!’ to reading more articles like this.

      Thank you! Please keep’em coming. 🤗

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    Addiction in kids affects families and especially parenting.

    Parents need support.

    An epidemic of drug addiction with our kids today is scarier then ever!

    Every day on national and local news, more and […]

    What Your Addicted Child Wants You to Know...

    Addiction in kids affects families and especially parenting. Parents need support. An epidemic of drug addiction with our kids today is scarier then ever! Every day on national and local news, more and more stories keep pointing to the opiate epidemic, overdoses,...

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  • What’s the difference between these 2 trendy phrases?

    Self-esteem refers to how you feel about yourself overall; how much esteem, positive regard or self-love you have. Self-esteem is developed from positive and/or negative experiences and situations that have shaped how you view yourself today.

    Self-confidence is how you feel about your…Read More

  • Start by doing what’s necessary; then do what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.
    – Francis Of Assisi

    “On every level of life, from housework to heights of prayer, in all judgment and efforts to get things done, hurry and impatience are sure marks of the amateur.”
    ― Evelyn Underhill

    Patience. Persistence. Perseverance.

  • Stress management 101:

    1. Take – one day at a time

    “We can easily manage if we will only take, each day, the burden appointed to it. But the load will be too heavy for us if we carry yesterday’s burden over again today, and then add the burden of the morrow before we are required to bear it.”
    – John Newton

    2. Recognize – the power o…Read More

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    Fay Brezel started the topic Transitions and Change in the forum

    “Look on every exit as being an entrance somewhere else.”
    ― Tom Stoppard

    “How strange that the nature of life is change, yet the nature of human beings is to resist change. And how ironic that the difficult times we fear might ruin us are the very ones that can break us open and help us blossom into who we were meant to be.”
    ― Elizabeth L…Read More

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    Fay Brezel started the topic Empty Nesting in the forum

    “Give the ones you love wings to fly, roots to come back and reasons to stay.”
    —The Dalai Lama

    “Letting go helps us to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps us restore our balance. It allows others to be responsible for themselves and for us to take our hands off situations that do not belong to us.”
    -Melody Beattie

    A lot easie…Read More

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    Fay Brezel started the topic Divorce/Separation in the forum

    “The only thing more unthinkable than leaving was staying; the only thing more impossible than staying was leaving. I didn’t want to destroy anything or anybody. I just wanted to slip quietly out the back door, without causing any fuss or consequences, and then not stop running until I reached Greenland.”
    ― Elizabeth Gilbert

    “I used to loathe…Read More

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    Fay Brezel started the topic Family Dynamics in the forum

    “There is no such thing as a “broken family.” Family is family, and is not determined by marriage certificates, divorce papers, and adoption documents. Families are made in the heart. The only time family becomes null is when those ties in the heart are cut. If you cut those ties, those people are not your family. If you make those ties, those p…Read More

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    Fay Brezel started the topic Dating in the forum

    “To say that one waits a lifetime for his soulmate to come around is a paradox. People eventually get sick of waiting, take a chance on someone, and by the art of commitment become soulmates, which takes a lifetime to perfect.”
    ― Criss Jami

    “I wondered what happened when you offered yourself to someone, and they opened you, only to disco…Read More

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    Fay Brezel started the topic Friendship in the forum

    The strong bond of friendship is not always a balanced equation; friendship is not always about giving and taking in equal shares. Instead, friendship is grounded in a feeling that you know exactly who will be there or you when you need something, no matter what or when.

    Simon Sinek

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    Fay Brezel started the topic Habits in the forum

    I have learned that champions aren’t just born; champions can be made when they embrace and commit to life-changing positive habits.

    -Lewis Howes

    Breaking the bad, instilling the good. Here is the space to share the ins and outs of what works, what doesn’t, and what to try next.

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    Fay Brezel started the topic Ohel at Tikvah? in the forum

    The following post has been transferred from a previous version of the forum @ okclarity.com

    Originally posted by: JM

    Has anyone used and had success with a therapist from Ohel?
    I’m worried about the therapists having less experience (as can be expected in a clinic setting) and likely young, new graduates.
    Although I did hear that they…Read More

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    Fay Brezel started the topic Relationships that work in the forum

    The following post has been transferred from a previous version of the forum @ okclarity.com

    Originally posted by: naomisternberg613

    If you want a marriage to work one has to work on his marriage.

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