You expressed it super clearly:)

Just thought of adding- for people with trauma or growing up with feelings of unsafety, those ‘feelings’ may get stuck in the body, and even once they do the cognitive work ( for example the helpful thought process you explained above), they will still ‘feel’ anxious, because despite their mind ‘getting it’,…Read More

That sounds so hard:( I’m so sorry you have to go through this.

Good for you, Impartial Spirit (nice name btw:))

No, I’m not a parent yet

Thanks, Melissa. Your poem is beautiful and I’m so happy to have discovered your blog!

thank you, Chavy<3

Wrote in the first post that we’ve worked it through in different ways…

Of course…

Fay, can you give more examples of , quoting you, creating physical space prior to completely moving out?

Wow, thank you so much Dana, Fay and Michali!

I love all of the ideas mentioned. I’m especially excited about setting a goal (will be an emotional health one for me, I’m not feeling up to spiritual goals yet). I also like the idea of designating someone that will have my back and even someone in a similar situation so that I have a partner, sort…Read More

I don’t have any advice but I just want to say I completely understand what you are feeling and think they are very normal.

Thank you!!!!

@Zipa Leah, can I bother you to give us a teeny tiny summary on the book you recommended, Whole Again? Can’t seem to find much online, and find many of these books redundant, so curious to know about this one before I purchase it.

@Zipa Leah Scheinberg will probably be more helpful in explaining the process and benefits.

“Somatic Experiencing is a body-centered approach to treating PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) that, rather than focusing only on thoughts or emotions associated with a traumatic event, expands to include the natural bodily (somatic) responses.”

Somatic Experiencing: A Body-Centered Approach to Treating PTSD

I just started and it is very helpful

That sounds excruciating. I’m not a therapist but the few things that come to mind are somatic experiencing therapy, trauma therapy, medication.

Maybe you be the one to go deeper with you to help you:)

@Chavy, by facing feelings, I mean letting go of the shame and bringing them into therapy sessions so it can be worked on. There is usually something deeper behind it, an unfulfilled childhood need, a lack of object permanence, something that needs to be processed.

@Hope, I can’t give it a literal amount of time, neither will I say it is fully…Read More

I do not have any practical suggestions, but have experienced the same thing. It definitely gets easier with time. With processing. With facing feelings and talking about them in therapy again and again until the subside bit by bit and the agony and dependence is not so overwhelming…. Hang in there.