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  • Yes yes i think we so undervalue the power of listening. Good for therapists because that’s why they’re in business, lol. But really like truly listening is so difficult but if we can all do a little more of it we’d probably be so much healthier and happier. My takeaway is to listen better! and do other tiny things that are not related…Read More

  • Thanks for clarifying!

  • Oh okay lol, thanks for clarifying! She sounds so awesome!

  • Wow that sent chills down my spine.

    Q for you –

    so you never struggled with anxiety or depression prior to marriage and the birth of your fist child?

  • Wow, I love this. and this line

    I don’t personally call it strength I believe it is just courage to push past the vulnerability if that makes sense.

    I would call that courage strength.

     

  • LOL!

  • Hey! thanks so much for doing this for us. Do you still feel like people look at you as less than since you’ve been open about your struggles? Or not, since your an influencer in some way?

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    Chany replied to the topic Anxious about having kids in the forum Anxiety

    I think its a normal anxiety to have and likely your spouse will understand and help walk through rational thinking with you. If he respond negatively it might be an argument worth exploring to help each of you learn to support each other with each other’s “crazinesses” in a most helpful way. NO?

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    Chany replied to the topic The Addiction of Codependency in the forum Addiction

    Yes- do that, control yourself and keep trying for longer durations, its like a muscle and the more you exercise it the stronger it will become and it will be less tempting. I notice the more i give in to the checking of my phone the stringer the habit becomes the more i refrain initially it’s difficult but then it reaches a point where it gets easier.

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    Chany replied to the topic The Addiction of Codependency in the forum Addiction

    @chavy yes it sounds very similar to me. What’s important i think is realizing the cycle and catching yourself prior to looking for it. Not sure if that makes sense. I think we all look for validation its the extremes that are no good. If you feel like you’re doing it to an extreme try stopping yourself once a day or maybe once a week?

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    Chany replied to the topic Gratitude for Who We Are in the forum Self Care

    Yes it’s so is true. There is so much good and yet our minds are naturally inclined to focus on what is missing to go and pursue that. I once read that we may even think that if we’re grateful for little things we won’t have the drive or desire to go after more and get better things in life. So subconsciously we keep ourselves unhappy and in a…Read More

  • Yes this is definitely true but easier said than done. I like how you broke that into step one, determine how you want to feel and then what though, think thoughts that will help you feel that way?

  • I would’ve also been relieved lol. You can have mixed emotions and feelings opposite what others “expect”. Remember not everyone is overtly as honest about their feelings which tends to just make the black/white expectations even harder to resist. You don’t need to feel a certain way, just feel and work with what’s there. Awesome that your…Read More

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    Chany replied to the topic Gratitude for Who We Are in the forum Self Care

    ha thanks for staring this. Yes, I am grateful for sipping a hot coffee right now with a delicious protein bar and having a few minutes to catch up on emails and check out this site. Taking a moment to realize the gift of these simple pleasures that not everyone is granted turns ordinary into extraordinary. Thanks for the reminder.

  • Why would you expect yourself to feel sympathy or empathy for someone that put you through so much pain especially if you haven’t worked through all that pain? I think it is an almost impossible ask of yourself. Also feelings are feelings and you can’t force yourself to have them or not have them. I also like and agree with the idea @dotingkishkeRead More

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    Chany replied to the topic The Addiction of Codependency in the forum Addiction

    I love how you made this analogy. I think it’s so true and its so difficult to fall out of this trap once your caught in it. I was recently reading something about helpers high and that it comes when we do do something kind for others and it can actually be very beneficial for the do-er as well but again anything to an extreme even kindness is…Read More

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    Chany replied to the topic anxiety in the am in the forum Anxiety

    I love that idea of the ice cream coffee or finding anything enjoyable to look forward to. Another idea that works well for me and other is having a strange rule like no assessing my feelings or mood until _____. My blank is before coffee but coffee also means that I already prayed and did some physical exercise and so once the coffee is in my…Read More

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    Chany replied to the topic My Battle With Inner Control in the forum Trauma

    Yes, i have that experience too but sometimes we just need more time and patience to try different things out, fail, and still not give up.

  • So true – hurt people hurt others. Good boundaries are definitely imperative and keeping things superficial is a boundary i like.

  • I like that line “the mind will quit ten times before the body does”

    Good one!

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