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avacad0Participant2 years ago
Life is a journey a road in which we travel
It is an intricate pattern taking time to unravel
The road can be straight bringing happiness and elation
But it can have curves and bumps with so much aggravation
Sometimes the view is beautiful, the sun is shining
We don’t see the clouds only the silver lining
But then comes the storm taking us by surprise
Where we feel sadness and our heart cries
We try to see be positive and to stay upbeat
But amidst our challenges it is not an easy feat
People are struggling with challenges galore
Feelings are hurt and hearts are so sore
There are many out there
Who are walking around in despair
Pretending that life is great
Not willing to open up and to share their fate
They hide behind the tool of perfection
God forbid that anyone should know their situation
They say things they don’t feel
Playing parts that are not real
Making others wonder
Why only by me does life thunder?
Trying to understand and comprehend
Why do challenges only hit my end?
If only everyone would just come out and say
“Whatever you are, you are okay”
Because underneath the facade
We are all attempting in this whirlpool to wade
Conquering so many trials and tribulations
So much confusion and speculations
So let’s make an effort to try
The “myth” of the perfect life to demystify
To break the stigma of “life is always perfect to a tee”
To embrace each and every person despite their struggles emotionally
And give them our love and care
So that they can face their hardships this coming year
With feelings of support and unity
And to be the best we can be!2 years ago
Yes, yes, and yes!!! Very true. If only we would all be more open and not put on a facade…. There’s a very interesting Diary in the Ami magazine of someone’s personal journey. It’s titled “my perfect life.” From the title, I take that we’re all going trying to put on the image of a “perfect life,” but naturally, we have struggles. We’re so scared to show a less than perfect front. (I’m not in any way downing the diary. I actually love it. I’m just sharing my thoughts about this topic in general).
May we all be granted a year of Blessings, Hatzlacha (success) and healing.
Keep up your amazing work, @Avacad0!2 years ago
Your writing does an amazing job at sharing what so many people feel. So many people are walking around with a facade that they desperately would like to share but for one reason or another are unable to. One way to look at mental illness is the start discrepancy between our inner world and our outer appearance. For example, if someone were dancing in the streets after winning the lottery most would agree that is a healthy and appropriate response. However, if someone were dancing in the streets on an average Monday morning, we may refer to that as a manic episode. I hope your writing inspires you to be able to align who you are both internally and externally so that you are able to live a life that is in sync and peaceful.
avacad0ParticipantTopic Author2 years ago
Thank you! I just wish people would be more genuine. I don’t expect people to walk down the street with a microphone and yell out what it is that they are struggling, but when having a conversation about struggles and hardships if only there would be more honesty and authenticity.
I am noticing that due to my very honest nature I very many times surprise others when I will admit my hardships and my struggles. I just cannot fathom how you can fake things that are not true. Why is it a deficit if we have a hard time in a certain area it is so normal! That is what makes us human.2 years ago
So beautifully & eloquently written; you really expressed some profound truths here; kol hakavod!2 years agoHi Avocado- I’m relatively new to this site, so I only just saw your post “My Contemplation on this Past Year.” Wow- you are a terrific writer, and must use this talent to help you transcend your sadness at the facade.Your plea that others see “Whatever you are, you are okay” reminds me of one of my favorite songs by Alanis Morrisette “That I Would Be Good.” I recommend it. May your words hit home this year.“That I would be good, even if I did nothingThat I would be good, even if I got the thumbs downThat I would be good if I got and stayed sickThat I would be good even if I gained ten poundsThat I would be fine even if I went bankruptThat I would be good if I lost my hair and my youthThat I would be great if I was no longer queenThat I would be grand if I was not all knowingThat I would be loved even when I numb myselfThat I would be good even when I am overwhelmedThat I would be loved even when I was fumingThat I would be good even if I was clingyThat I would be good even if I lost sanityThat I would be goodWhether with or without you”
avacad0ParticipantTopic Author2 years ago
Thank you! so beautiful and so true. If only we can love ourselves for just being ourselves!2 years ago
Well, we can try-or recommit to trying every day, if necessary. Make it a practise, along with self-care and establishing better boundaries!2 years ago
In response to Rivkah Kaufman's post #8474:
Wow!! If only we and the world would come to such a high level of acceptance, it would be a different place. I guess it’s hard to start with myself because when I say those things “that I would be good..” I have my family dynamics in mind and how they would radically disagree with this. So it makes it harder for me to truly internalize it. But, thank you!! May we all come to self-Acceptance!2 years ago
Hi Chavy-I can see that depending on one’s situation this kind of radical acceptance would be easier or harder, especially if your family’s disagreement would make it harder to internalize. As you said though, that’s an issue of family dynamics-something about the way your family interacts with you and the world makes self-acceptance harder. So your family system-the role you play in it and its impact on you – would be a fruitful avenue for you to explore in therapy, I feel. All the best!