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TTBBParticipant4 years agoHi! I just wanted to share something that I recently heard from Rabbi Bentzion Klatzko.
He said that the most beautiful way to compliment a child is by saying, ” I love watching you _color, build lego, learn chumash, play piano______”.
I have done this with my children several times since I heard it from Rabbi Klatzko and I can see them glowing when I say it.
Hello1Participant4 years agoThanks so much for sharing this. It sounds so basic yet I’ve never practiced it and have yet to hear or whiteness it. I will definitely try it out.
BananaParticipant4 years agoHi! I just wanted to share something that I recently heard from Rabbi Bentzion Klatzko. He said that the most beautiful way to compliment a child is by saying, ” I love watching you _color, build lego, learn chumash, play piano______”. I have done this with my children several times since I heard it from Rabbi Klatzko and I can see them glowing when I say it.
Thank you for sharing! It’s so simple yet much better than the usual “You’re the best at _” or “You’re perfect _” as those can lead to perfectionism/OCD… thank you!
4 years agoThanks for commenting! Yes. I did not think of it that way but now that you’re saying about the OCD/ perfectionism- it makes so much sense and maybe that is why I feel so much better saying this type of praise to my children.
BananaParticipant4 years agoThanks for commenting! Yes. I did not think of it that way but now that you’re saying about the OCD/ perfectionism- it makes so much sense and maybe that is why I feel so much better saying this type of praise to my children.
Thank you! 🙂
OnAndonAnonParticipant4 years agoThanks for sharing that!
I try to be very sensitive to how I compliment my children so as to make it all about them and not about me or what I want for them.
Similarly, when it comes to telling them that I love them, I never tie it to reasoning (such as a well meaning ‘I love you because you’re…) and try to let them know I love them simply because of who they are and because they are my child.
BananaParticipant4 years agoSimilarly, when it comes to telling them that I love them, I never tie it to reasoning (such as a well meaning ‘I love you because you’re…) and try to let them know I love them simply because of who they are and because they are my child.
I like that! Thanks for sharing! 🙂
Fern WeisParticipant4 years agoI learned something very powerful about complimenting children (and everyone else) that helps them build their self-esteem — to point out the personal quality they are showing, rather than praising their accomplishment.
So, instead of saying, “You’re such a good friend,” you point out how carefully she listened when her friend was upset.
Instead of “You’re a great basketball player,” you notice, “You were a real team player passing the ball.”
Recognizing their own strengths… this can never be taken away from them.
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